When someone asks when she was last truly happy, she knows, without a doubt, it was on that ill-fated, final trip with Alex. Poppy has everything she should want, but she’s stuck in a rut. Until two years ago, when they ruined everything. For most of the year they live far apart-she’s in New York City, and he’s in their small hometown-but every summer, for a decade, they have taken one glorious week of vacation together. And somehow, ever since a fateful car share home from college many years ago, they are the very best of friends. She has insatiable wanderlust he prefers to stay home with a book. Comment below.From the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Book Lovers and Beach Read comes a sparkling novel that will leave you with the warm, hazy afterglow usually reserved for the best vacations. We’d love to hear how you have dealt with being in the middle of two friends before. What happens if time goes by and you decide that you actually need to end one of these friendships? We’ll cover this in an upcoming post! Let these two adults work out their own issues on their own time. It’s okay to want to help both parties resolve their issues, but if it comes to a point where it is clear the relationship needs to be paused, don’t force anything. Maybe this friendship will mend one day, maybe it won’t. Essentially, show the same respect you would always show. Don’t change your plans for the other friend even if they sound more enticing. When you make plans, make sure you stick to them. If one friend is more of a social person then it would make sense to invite her out for drinks at the bar. A good rule of thumb is sticking with interests.
#Stuck in the middle of lovers and friends how to
It can be difficult to decide who to make plans with or how to split your time. If you’re having a formal dinner, try not to sit the two next two each other, but otherwise they should be able to conduct themselves as adults and be cordial.Īvoid inviting both to more casual events like a girl’s night out. It goes without saying, but everyone is expected to be an adult at the event. Make sure to give a heads up to each that they are both invited. It would be either of their decision whether they choose to attend or not. If you have an upcoming celebratory event (i.e your birthday) you would want to extend an invitation to both parties. You’re trying to get out of the middle, remember? Also don’t be tempted to run between the two with what the other one said about them.
You don’t want to lose either friend’s trust.
#Stuck in the middle of lovers and friends zip
The moment these two stop being friends, it’s time to zip it on personal information.This might be an adjustment, but it’s critical to remember. It doesn’t make you any less of a friend to either.
If one or both friends behavior gets out of line, it’s okay to say something about it. Never choose the other friend as the one you vent to – you already know their opinion will be biased.īeing a good friend, sometimes means politely calling out someone for the things they are doing. Make sure to stick to this, even if one friend makes you upset. Set ground rules from the beginning that you won’t participate nor do you want to hear any bashing of the other friend. It is however important to be upfront and honest that you plan to remain friends with each of them, and outline your expectation that neither one of them would try to make you choose a side. It’s okay to be a listening ear to both friends, and even help them talk through the situation. Honesty will forever and always be the best policy. Is it possible to be a true friend to both parties? Yes, it is! All of your friends aren’t friends, right? Think of the situation in these terms. Their argument feels more like a personality clash and although you understand both sides, it doesn’t seem like a reason to choose one friend over the other. You are feeling stuck in the middle and want to remain friends with both of your girls. Two of your good friends are on the outs, and it doesn’t look like a reconciliation is near. Your girl group split up, and the squad just isn’t the same anymore.
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